Real Life Wedding Planning Pt. 4
Real Life Wedding Advice (Pt. 4 of 4)
ONE LAST TIP FROM MY WEDDING THAT WILL HELP YOU PLAN FOR YOUR BIG DAY
Yay! You’re almost there!
After you and future forever bae flashed the new bling, set the budget, enjoyed your sweet time of engagement, and planned your butts off, you are now here.
It’s the moment you’ve all been waiting for! Nothing compares to the nervous excitement you will feel right before walking down the aisle!
My final piece of advice is simple, and I hope you find it easy to do. The last real life advice is this:
Enjoy your beautiful, big day. Push everything else to the side. Any family drama, any stress about life after the wedding, any concerns at all – push the mute button in your mind, and then file them away in the “save for later” portion of your brain if you must.
Enjoy the getting ready.
Enjoy the millions of pictures.
Enjoy the hype and anticipation.
Enjoy the guests who are present.
Enjoy the weather, the music, the food, and the stories you will inevitably hear about you and boo all around you.
Enjoy the happy tears of others, wishing you the best in life.
Enjoy the awkward speeches, the traditions, the bad dancing, and the cake.
Enjoy your friends, who traveled from near and far, and are now all in one place to support the both of you.
Enjoy the love all around.
We’ve all seen and heard the term “bridezilla.” That laughable label is a very real possibility for you as a bride, if you decide to focus on all the plans you’ve made on the day of your wedding instead of on the marriage you are about to enter into. Unhappy brides are the brides who have shed their blood, sweat, and tears, and are willing to defend and attack anything or anyone who blocks or threatens all their hard work. From my own experience, and the experience of being a bridesmaid, I know that happy brides are the ones who do their best and forget the rest.
There is a season for everything.
You’ve planned your heart out. Now it’s time to stop.
So stop the planning and live happily in the plans you’ve made.
On the day of your wedding, take some time – even if that’s 10 minutes alone in the bathroom while everyone is making you breakfast – to prepare your heart for the one you love. Choose to love, everything and everyone, no matter their actions or words on this day above all days. This is after all, one of the most love-filled days in your life!
And the reason I advise this simple rule is because, as a clinical counselor, I’ve seen couples and people who find it very hard to receive love when they themselves are unloving.
If you want to enjoy the fruits of your labor now, let the labor and any mental or emotional work you do today simply be the decision to love everyone in your world. Not only will others enjoy you and your wedding more this way, you and the Mr. will truly experience one of the happiest days of your life.
Looking back, I wish we had made a more concerted effort to feel this way on our big day. In fact, there were moments we didn’t but here are some more of the moments we did!
¡Salud! To the happiest day of your life yet, may you both enjoy many blessings and be a blessing to many others from this day forward! Happy wedding! Happier marriage!